Writing a speech for the wedding can be a daunting task If you have never written a speech, it can be overwhelming and you may not know where to start. Here are a few tips and tricks to make it a bit easier for you, no matter what type of speech or toast you are trying to write.
First off, bring a drink to the podium. While this one may seem obvious, more often than not, people forget. There is nothing worse than saying "raise your glasses to toast" and you are the one person without a drink. Keep in mind that if you are being asked to say a speech at the wedding, the couple is trusting you to be (semi) sober and responsible on the microphone. Take the responsibility seriously and make it memorable!
What is the tone of the speech? Are you trying to be funny or serious or a mix of both? Either one is OK, but keep in mind that flip flopping back and forth might get confusing to the guests.
In addition to having all of the guests watching you, it's so important to familiarize yourself with the location of the photographer and videographer. Try not to turn your back to them at any time throughout your speech.
Be courteous of the guests and mindful of the time. It's also important to refrain from using inside jokes.While you and the groom may think the joke is hilarious, no one else will understand and you may hear crickets.
Here are a few tips that are specific to the bride and groom:
Practice. There is nothing worse than getting to the podium and script reading off a paper. Reading it ahead of time and practicing will allow you to relax a bit, and experience the emotion that comes with what you are saying.
Thank everyone. Your guests, your vendors, your emcee, your officiant, your planner, your in-laws, your parents, your out of town guests and your wedding party. Never underestimate the power of appreciation. Thank all of the guests in attendance and if you feel that you are missing someone in the speech, have your speech proof read by your planner or a friend that you are not mentioning in the speech.
It's also a good time to mention your spouse. If you don't feel comfortable speaking to each other in front of a crowd, mentioning how stunning he/she looks would suffice.
You may also want to take a minute (if your parents haven't already) to mention guests who have passed and aren't with you at the wedding. You may choose to omit this all together if it has already been a part of the ceremony or another speech.